Identities are an ever present concept… as with many things, it has positive and negative connotations to its meaning. My intention is to refer to it in a positive way here.

Identities are simply ways that we identify ourselves. We have different ones, because we can be identified in different ways depending on the perspective one takes. I want to make sure to distinguish it from roles. While we may play a role or an identity may represent a role we take on in our lives… I think of them as different… maybe in part because of the stereotyped roles that we often think of in our society…

So, when I speak of identities here, I am not talking about stereotyped roles that we fall into or stay in because we feel like we don’t have a choice or don’t recognize that is what we are doing. These identities, to me, are conscious and purposeful choices we make about how to define ourselves… a framework, so to speak.

Ultimately they are frameworks so they are malleable… flexible. That makes sense though, doesn’t it? Because as I learn and grow as a person… as a soul, even… it will be necessary that my identity be able to change and evolve with me. Letting go of the hierarchy nature of such concepts… its not about better or worse… its about different, changing, evolving. And even though evolving can have somewhat of a comparative sense to it, I challenge you to think of it as more fluid than that… as moving around in 5D space rather than on some line… and even a continuum is still linear in nature.

The thing I find myself wrestling with today with regard to identities is how difficult it can be to change them when its called for… I mean, now that I say all that I have said about them, it seems kind of silly (even to me) to be saying this… but grant me some grace here… this is a flashback of sorts and the writing of this is the fleshing out of the idea or notion that started this whole thing!! Which, honestly, began as a rather heart wrenching experience for my human self and a soul searching/exploring one for my higher/True Self…

As people, we get stuck on an identity… we are reluctant to let go of it. Many times the identity was a hard won identity in the first place and we don’t want to “lose” it. I think, other times, it is more simply that we don’t realize we are holding on so tightly to something and its because we are afraid that if we let go of that identity… we won’t know who we are any more….

But in either case… what’s so bad about that? I mean, if it was a hard won identity… that’s fine. Letting go of it to move on to a new identity does not negate the fact that we obtained the accomplishment of achieving that identity in the first place. And in the latter case… so what if I don’t know who I am in the moment. In fact… that’s kind of a beautiful thing in and of itself. I mean, it means that I am evolving into something new with endless possibilities!

When we hold on to an identity out of fear, we limit the universe’s potential for us. As I evolve… at each stage, I can only compare where I am to where I have been… because I don’t know anything else, so, of course, where I am feels like the best or the ultimate. But there is always something else to evolve into and because we can’t possibly come close to imaging the universes possibilities, we severely limit ourselves when we hold on just because its the best we can imagine.

Even when the place we are doesn’t “feel” great… it doesn’t mean that its not evolution. Even when I am feeling “horrible”, its a different kind of “horrible” than I felt like before, because I’m in a new place myself, because I know more. If I am feeling more pain at a loss, its because I have since experienced more love and/or joy since the last loss that I experienced. That is something to be thankful for and to honor as growth/evolution.

So, today, Being My True Self means honoring ever-evolving identities, letting go of current ones to make way for new ones… that are bigger and brighter and more beautiful than I could have ever imagined for myself.

Love and Light to my fellow evolutionary Beings!

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I am on a journey .... By title I am a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. I have been called friend, girlfriend, wife, mom... among other labels. But I am a loving, caring being that lives through these labels and titles to help and heal others while I am here.

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