Negative? I Think Not

When it comes right down to it… it really is all about love. Dare I say, Love (with a big letter L).

It is all about acceptance of each other… and each other’s differences… It goes waaaaay beyond tolerance. It is not about what religious beliefs someone or what any one particular person or culture  believes. It is not about political beliefs.

No one is right… and no one is wrong.

When I look at all the strife in the world… or when I look at a particular “negative” action… and I ask the question “what makes it negative and not positive?” The answer is a person (or people) does (do). Based on a belief system. A belief system that is often times handed down from a person to a person. The problem is, people quit thinking when this happens. They quit asking why it was done that way. They quit trying to figure out if this is still the best way to do something or not, they just keep trying to apply the same rule.

I remember hearing a tale one time. A story. The story goes something like this. A daughter watched her mother prepare a pot roast. While preparing it, the mother cut off the ends of the pot roast and put it in a pan and into the oven. The daughter asked the mother  “why do you cut off the ends of the pot roast?” The mother replied “that is the way my mother did it, ask your grandmother why.”

The next time the daughter saw the grandmother, she did just that. The grandmother laughed and said “the first place your grandfather and I lived in had a very small oven and the only way I could cook a pot roast was to cut the ends off to make it fit.”

This rule was kept long after it no longer served a purpose… and not only kept, but passed on.. and it would have passed on two more generations later had the child not asked the question.

Children so often are willing to ask questions. And then they get it beat out of them (some literally and some verbally and some figuratively) as they age… they are told to not question their elders, that the elders know best. When in truth, many many times it is the youngest that have the newest and most brilliant ideas… in fact, often they have the ideas that change the world and changed it for the better. If they weren’t young, they were at least free thinkers that didn’t confine themselves because someone else said something couldn’t be done. They tried anyway!

We all come to this planet to learn a lesson. To further our learning. We are all on our own path. We are all taking different ways to and routes to learn similar things. Who am I, as a human or as a soul, to judge another’s chosen way? Or to impede another’s lesson even?

I am here to share what I know to be true. I am here to share what I have learned in this lifetime … and beyond. I am here to share with anyone that wants to hear and is ready to hear what I have to say. I believe those people will find their way to me and for them, I am happy to serve. I am not here to make others change… they may not be ready… they may need to not hear what I have to say in order to learn what they came to learn… so, who am I to say that I know better than they? The answer is, I’m not. I am not better, nor am I worse. I am simply different. I have gifts to share. As does every other soul on this planet that is here to live a human experience.

Those that we may call negative??? Not negative… just different. Even if its something like taking a life. Maybe they came to learn what it was like to do that or their soul is lost… either way, I believe that the life they took agreed to play that role and knew what they were doing. There is beauty in every experience you can have on this planet, if you are willing to look for it.

Today, Being My True Self means remembering to honor and celebrate all the experiences in the world and in my life… especially when I feel what most would call some negative emotion… that is where growth happens. And I am thankful for every opportunity to grow. Thank you for being a part of my life experience and playing the role you chose in this life experience with me. I honor you and am here to serve you in whatever way I can.

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I am on a journey .... By title I am a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. I have been called friend, girlfriend, wife, mom... among other labels. But I am a loving, caring being that lives through these labels and titles to help and heal others while I am here.

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