The Puzzle of Life

Judging others…. we all do it. We judge ourselves too. But what is really happening. Here is how I see it.

I incarnated to have certain experiences in this lifetime. I have done this many times before. I have learned many things. And I have many more things to learn. I will continue to incarnate until I have had a chance to experience them all… at that point… well, that’s a different post!

If you put all the possible things to learn and wrote them down in a big long list of things to learn, you would have the headings for chapters of a textbook. Can you imagine that? The textbook of life lessons on earth! 🙂

When I incarnate, my soul takes out the textbook and decides what lesson it wants to experience in the next lifetime. Who knows how a soul makes a decision like this. I imagine it is much like how I decide what to eat when I look at a menu in a restaurant… hmmm… what sounds good to me, right now? Or what has been recommended to me by a trusted friend? Or do I want to be daring and try something I’ve never tried before and never imagined trying?

The thing is… we are all doing the exact same thing. We are just choosing different lessons at different times… for different reasons. Because you can do the textbook chapters in any order you want to. There is no cumulative, pre-requisite for anything in the textbook.

What does that look like for us as incarnated humans? It means that you may have already mastered a lesson in the textbook of life that I am now learning or haven’t even thought about doing yet. It means that I may have already mastered a lesson that you haven’t done yet.

Its why you can meet someone that seems to not know what they are doing, but gives you some immense piece of wisdom that rocks you off your feet. Or why someone that seems to have it all together can struggle with something that you find so simple and easy.

When you put it all together, when you put us all together on the planet, we create a huge puzzle… each off us having a different piece and each fitting together perfectly… IF we would simply accept each other as we are without judging each other..

When we judge, we are basically saying that the other person isn’t as good as we are because they haven’t figured out what we already know or have figured out. Or vice versa. What is there to judge though? If I have incarnated 100 times, it could mean that I have learned 100 chapters in the book of life or it could mean that I have tried to learn 1 chapter, 100 times. And there is not anything there to judge. It simply is what it is.

Who knows why I may take multiple times to learn a particular lesson. It does not matter. What matters, is that I have a piece that helps others and others have a piece that will help me, if only I am willing to accept that help from others. These lessons aren’t easy. How many people that have had near death experiences come back saying that they didn’t really want to come back?!

This thing called life that we are all doing… is not easy. It wasn’t meant to be. Sometimes we choose a life where money is not the issue, because we want to be able to focus solely on something else. Other times we choose to have money be a challenge, to serve a purpose in our learning. Whatever it is, my position is no better or worse than your position.

I appreciate you for who you are and what you came to learn. I have a piece of the puzzle called life; some I brought with me and others I have learned on this journey in this life. I am happy to share what I have learned with you. Thank you for being you and bringing to this planet your unique gifts and for your fortitude to learn the lesson you came to learn. You are brave.

Today… Being My True Self means that I am going to push myself to do some things that I find difficult… because I know that that is where I will learn the best lessons.

In Light & Service, Danielle

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I am on a journey .... By title I am a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. I have been called friend, girlfriend, wife, mom... among other labels. But I am a loving, caring being that lives through these labels and titles to help and heal others while I am here.

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